“I don’t fit.”

I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with people who’ve told me that they don’t fit with where they are at.  It makes me think that most people, if not everyone feels like they’re in the wrong place in life pretty often.

Questioning where you are in life is normal.  Feeling like you don’t fit is kind of like being a tree in a desert with no water.

Here are some of the comments I’ve heard:

“I just feel like I was meant to do something more important.”

“What I’m doing is sucking the life out of me.”

“Every conversation I have with people around me is shallow and mostly awkward.”

“Marriage isn’t supposed to be like THIS, is it?”

“I’m just putting my time in until something better comes along.”

Here’s the good news:  You’re exactly where you need to be right now.  Whether you like it or not, even if you’ve made a bad decision that has landed you in a bad spot, God knows what you’re going through and is using your circumstances to shape and mold you.  This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be doing something to change where you are, but it does mean that you need to put effort into making today count.

It is really easy to be consumed with where you “should be” and not focus on where you are.  This is especially true if you are a leader in an organization that needs you to be thinking about the future all the time.

I’ve been reminded a couple of times this past week, both in my quiet time and listening to some very wise men, about something God’s Word tells us:

But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night.  He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither.  Whatever he does prospers.  ~Psalm 1:2,3

“But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.  He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.”   ~Jeremiah 17:7,8

We should expect to be “in the desert” a few times during our life.  This can happen at school, in marriage, in our career, etc.  But the important thing is that we have our trust and confidence in God.  This allows us to be productive, to “bear fruit” even when things aren’t going right.

Looking back, I can point to a couple of key times in my life where I could have chosen to be absolutely miserable and wallow in self-pity at my circumstances.  But instead, by trusting God and continuing to seek Him for guidance, I had amazing peace and confidence.

But it’s just not enough to simply say “Yes, I trust in God”.  A tree that is planted by water has roots that anchor it and get nutrition from a hidden source.

“What is under the soil should be as great as what is above the soil”.  ~Erwin Lutzer

This means that we need to spend time developing our personal growth as we go through our everyday life.  If your not intentional about it, it won’t happen.

You probably fit better than you think right now… and you need to keep developing your spiritual “roots”, your trust in God, so that you can be prepared when the next dry season comes.


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