Communicating with Transparency ;)

The Biltmore Estate in Asheville, NC has the most remarkable greenhouse I have ever seen.  Inside this solid brick, steel and stucco building is the most amazing collection of plants.  They would go unseen if there were no windows and there would be no growth happening inside if sunlight wasn’t coming in through the glass roof.  The transparency of the building allows vibrant life and growth to happen inside.

That example strikes me when I’m trying to communicate effectively with people.  Why is it so hard to communicate clearly with others?  A lot of people will point to studies showing that:

What you SAY accounts for only 7% of what is believed

The WAY you say it accounts for 38%

What people SEE accounts for the other 55%

Whether you believe these percentages or not, the words you use, the tone you use and your body language are all very important.

But you can rehearse and polish up your communication and still not come across as believable.  It takes being genuine to really get a point across.

As hard as I work at this, I’ll still get criticized for not communicating clearly enough sometimes.  Everyday, I’m learning how important it is to be intentional about how and why I’m saying something.

Transparency allows others to see the real you.  But being transparent can be a scary thing:

“Have you ever felt that your only comfort was your cage? 
Your not alone I have felt the same as you. 
Have you felt like your secrets give you away? 
You’re not alone I have been there too. 
Everyone is looking and everyone is laughing, 
but I think everyone feels the same. 
Everybody wants to feel okay.”

~ Lifehouse, Quasimodo

So even though it feels more safe, staying guarded keeps us from really connecting with others.  People want to see that you’re genuine in what you say…  and that means that you need to really be intentional about your communication.

Transparency in your life allows you to connect with others better.  Think about who you’ll be talking with today and consider how being more transparent can make your discussion more effective.

One great book you want to read is John Maxwell’s Everyone Communicates, Few Connect

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